To My Mom

Ever since I can remember I have felt like I didn't "fit" well with the members of my family. I mean yes I did resemble them and shared their name, but there was something bigger that didn't feel right. I remember having these 'off ' days where I was just so confused about myself. You would think it was normal and I was  growing up and changing. But why was I was one of the kids who loved sleeping out more than staying home? It was weird that my friends' houses felt like an escape and there I felt adequate. Now this might sound like a lot of gibberish to most people, I don't blame you, it's still a mystery to me why I was looking for more or what it was I was even looking for. There was only one person that pulled me in and let be be vulnerable, and still loved me with no strings attached. My mommy. This might be a little personal for a blog, but It might make a great movie one day. I was the product of a single-parent family. And to society this was "abnormal", but to me it was the most amazing gift. I was the product of a woman who loved me with every fiber in her body right to her soul. The excuse to rebel because of lack of love was never an option in my life. Don't get me wrong I was not the poster child for perfection but I tried. I learned all I could from her, than as I grew older I tried to be a teacher for her. Someone who was capable to love that much deserved 100 times the love in return. I saw the obstacles she faced and the thorns of love that tried to hurt her. But she never gave in! I never knew a weak muscle in that womans body, mind or soul. Lucky for me she was always my rock, and I think I have been hers. I just wanted to say I love you mom, and I will write a great story and dedicate to you and the woman you are and the woman you shaped me to be. Love Heather

Beauty & Brains

In society today, more than ever, the differences between men and women have become colossal. The picture of men and woman have always been painted as the men being the stonger sex and woman being meek and fragile. When it comes to the physical aspect of day-to-day things like heavy lifting and moving I would agree almost 100%. But where the battle of the fitest really matters is when we are faced with moral decisions and actions, and woman prevail phenomenally. In this area the level of strength of men and woman are completely oposite. Woman can avoid temptation and always think with their heart and not always with their hormones. I was in a prediciment earlier today that proved just that. Two men thought it would be okay to comment on my appearance (in my presence) and laugh about it. Now whether it was intended to be a compliment or a not, these men are MARRIED and that doesn't fly with me. I have respect for the women who are home after work cooking for them or waiting to see them after a long hard day. I have a beautiful boyfriend and would expect the same respect from him that when he is out in the big and bad world of temptation, to keep in mind the love I hold for him in my heart and soul. A word of advice for these men who think they can be excused for their fowl behaviour, please stop trying to impress other women start impressing the woman in your life you love and who loves you*

Two simple rules to abide by; when in LOVE

Speaking on behalf of women, being in a relationship causes us to sustain many pressures. Or so we think. We relate our real life love story with those near perfect fairy tales fed to us by media and movies. We assume men have to be willing to sweep us off our feet whenever they get the chance. Men need to hold our hand everytime we walk side by side and they need to take us out to extravagant and lavish resteraunts and dates. The truth of the matter is that men , just like women, have feelings and wants and desires to love and be loved. Because I think it's impossible to stuff everyone's love life into a generic category, I like to use my personal experinces as a precedent:


1)When your boyfriend/husband doesn't want to talk, he is not being an a** he just doesn't want to talk.


2)When he needs to be alone or  with the guys he is not being an a** he just wants to be an individual.


I figured out one of the keys to a successful relationship is the more you push the more your partner pulls, so don't push so much. Much like a teenager who is being told what to do every minute of the day, they might just turn and rebel completely against you. The objective is not to work against but with one another. And ladies don't over-analyze everything, enjoy the little moments that he does takes your breath away.*




Love,
Heather

To Dream is to Believe...

I am certain that every person, everywhere has something they've always wanted to experience. A dream they have wanted to fulfill but never got around to doing it. A few months ago I was introduced to this "dream board", the idea is to create a board (in 3d or 2d) with pictures and words that showcase some of the things you want in your life. With enough good, postitive energy you can achieve whatever it is you want!

Love. An endangered species?

About five minutes ago I finished reading a magazine article entitled ' Is staying in love a choice?' I was preparing myself for a cynical piece of literature. Instead I was taken-back by this particular writer's refreshing take on the seemingly mythical feeling we call LOVE. The article touched on the simple fact that if it was so easy to fall in love, why shouldn't the same effortless rules apply to staying in love?
 Sure you get older, you get busier, you get married, you have children, but those things should be enjoyed and not always treated as over-time work. Maybe I am speaking with the words of a hopeless romantic, and maybe not everyone will agree with me: If you accept the challenges of a relationship and endure the responsibilities of a parent you will exceed in greatness and happiness. I believe all of the tools that one needs to succeed in life comes from within. I do not have enough years of knowledge so that what I say may be creditable but my struggles in my relationship have made me love my partner more and more everyday. To me that says a lot, and to him that says even more.

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Two Woman Entourage

Sometimes the indecencies and injustices of todays world make it hard for anyone to believe there is an ounce of sincerity and goodness anywhere. I am not trying to sound pessismistic or at all trying to put down humanity. Everyone makes there own moral decisions and lives life according to what matters to them the most. Being a young woman makes the world an even more scary place to reside. I say scary and support it with my opening sentence, people don't believe or trust in other people. Which leads me to the reason behind my post, my best friend Nicole. Throughout my 20 years of life she has been a common factor and a consistant member of my social circle. The great event leading to our current status as BFF does not need to be mentioned, but let's say it tested us. The unfortunate mishap tested us as women, as friends and as human beings. We went through the pain together, and until today we remain in sync with eachother, as if we were twin sisters seperated at birth. Our friendship has sustained hardships and is successful because we remained truthful.  We are not judgemental and that allows us to see through our heart, when we are vulnerable we are sympathetic and we just simply understand one another. The most profound cliches are those that obtain the most abuse, so here is one: "Life is what you make it." Nicole and I have made life easy, simply for the fact we love and trust eachother. I can't say we chose to be friends, I will however give the credit to fate. Fate made a judicious selection when it paired Nicole and I together. One more cliche for the road: "Everything happens for a reason." (And don't you forget it.)

To: Nicole 

Love: Heather

Ordinary & Inspirational

A friend of mine drew this portrait of me. I was taken back when she showed it to me. I had interpreted the drawing as somebody who thought I was qualified to be converted into a beautiful piece of art. Thank you Kylie!

STARDOM-SYNDROME

Very seldom do we see the footprints made by the positive impacts that our youth inflict upon society. It seems today that the world has become too busy and too fascinated with the life style of the rich and famous, and too busy contemplating how to reach that status quo of fame and fortune. Almost everyone I meet and every child I see is a mirror image of the celebrities that have become un-official gurus to the way of life.  

In a world where money does indeed do all the talking, we have forgotten as human beings the greater importance of life and its simplistic routes to being fulfilled.

The media and the powerful influences behind the scenes have been successful in highlighting (in their opinion) what will result in one’s ultimate happiness. Whether it be cars or a clothing line we are manipulated into believing these objects ensure a better quality of life. Success, in any amount, is an equation of hard work driven by passion. It is probable we will not all be millionaire ball players or billionaire platinum recording artists. But we do have the ability and freedom of choice to feed the hunger that drives us and satisfy’s our needs beyond the financial front. Create your own standards and you will find the carpet is still red on the other side.

"I am not interested in money, I just want to be wonderful." Marilyn Monroe

Motivation is the ingredient in Change

It is a New Year and with a New Year comes the time for change, or that's what we like to think and say but never DO! I had taken the time to set up a blog so that I may freely express at any time what I was thinking and feeling. But I have not invested myself into this simple project consistantly. Much like a lot of people who are struggling with their "busy" lives, refraining from doing anything that YOU like to do, I have deprived myself of myself. As silly as that sounds it is such a mistake we all make every single day. And we wait 365 days for the hype of a New Year to some how miraculously motivate us to change in some way. I can't say we, because it is impossible to speak on behalf of everyone, so I will say that I make excuses for doing nothing when I can be doing something. I blame the cold, or the lack of money. I can point all my fingers at all the obstacles that I claim to be holding me back from enjoying everyday to it's full potential, but that doesn't really help me. If anything it leaves me stuck somewhere I might not want to be but somewhere I am comfortable being. I want to write everyday so I should, I want to be in love everyday with my guy so I will, I want to succeed and be compensated with happiness and make everyone around me happy so I think I should... So here is to your own life and the little things that make it extraordinary!