The game of LIFE

There are many ways to cope with the un-fair cards dealt to us in the game of life. There are many people we can blame for the empty void left in our souls. I have spoken before of the importance of being fulfilled and completely satisfied in our own lives. A lot of this fulfillment comes from a place where we spend most of our days and even more of our life. AT WORK. Even the word work doesn't jump off the page and excite you right to your bones. It is already asccociated in your mind as something boring and something that has to be done. Maybe I did not get the same memo as everyone else, but I think it is WRONG that we should settle on our role of employment simply because that is what we are told to do. I've seen mobs of people walking in the downtown core of Toronto, mostly dressed in black, driving black cars or holding up black umbrella's, and a million thoughts run through my head. I feel like they were all given the same set of rules and standards in life to follow in order to reach success. In those short moments of passing through the stampead of follow the leader, I realize my very own disctintions that seperate me from the rest of the herd. Not only the physical attributes like my red hair that is sometimes long or short depending on my mood. Or my bright green car that you could spot from a mile away. My internal voice of wisdom and of reason shout beyond the largest of moutains and reach to the heavens. I am stuck in a box of routines and schedules and routes leading to the "right" roads. In my opinion it is up to you and up to me to get ourselves out of this small box and create opportunities that may or may not find you. Don't play hide and seek with your own life. Seize and strive for the things, even the smallest of things that will make you smile at the very least.

I am attaching a link to this opinionated piece that gives you '7 reasons to quit your current job':  Enjoy!
http://www.officejobs.com/page/Blog/2008/05/the-top-7-reasons-to-quit-your-soul-sucking-job/

Power of Words...

I am a firm believer in the saying "Life is what you make it." Within all of it's simplicity there is a deeper message. What do you do to get to where you want to everyday? I don't mean how you commute from point A to B, be it by car or bus. But what steps do you take everyday in order to mold the person you want to be?! It seems like we (and when I say we I just mean in our general society) are always complaining of the lack of time there is to get anything we want done. We seem to fall into the stream of workoholics and angry adults, it takes us under like a tsunami. Without warning we become robots and seemingly lifeless. There is no trace of how we converted from happy and goal oriented to sad and pressured to meet the high standards of living. But some how it happened. Everyday I am a product of this happy person full of life, turned reserved adult who sits quietly waiting to be awaken by the 5 PM hour. My JOB is unfulfilling and monsterously starving my soul of true content. But complaining about my unhappiness will not make it any better. Being angry at my bitchy co-workers is not an excuse to shut down. So going back to the profound saying that Life is what you make it, what do I do to better myself right now as oppose to trying to take control of fate and what lies ahead?


1. I start a blog to develop my writing habits
2. I take a writing course to sharpen my skills and talents
3. I get my passport so I can travel the world
4. I buy a car so I can get where I want when I want
5. I have to love myslef and those around me, as much as humanly possible


I don't know exactly what life has in store for me but every moment and every opportunity is life teaching me a lesson, giving me a test or helping to push me in the right direction. We'll see what happens next.


-H.R <3

Now & Then

From now and than a lot has changed. Then was happier, now seems strange.

Just like the songs go, you were the air in my lungs, the blood in my veins.

Today I'm lucky if I can remain sane, you've become a riddle thats always working my brain.

Day after day you put me to the test. Trying to figure out if I'm anything like the rest.

Keep my lenses in focus, I picture us together growing older.

I'm holding on to who you use to be, it weighs me down like a boulder.

Maybe if i stop the chasing you will come back and like a gentle butterfly land on my shoulder.

H.R <3

To My Mom

Ever since I can remember I have felt like I didn't "fit" well with the members of my family. I mean yes I did resemble them and shared their name, but there was something bigger that didn't feel right. I remember having these 'off ' days where I was just so confused about myself. You would think it was normal and I was  growing up and changing. But why was I was one of the kids who loved sleeping out more than staying home? It was weird that my friends' houses felt like an escape and there I felt adequate. Now this might sound like a lot of gibberish to most people, I don't blame you, it's still a mystery to me why I was looking for more or what it was I was even looking for. There was only one person that pulled me in and let be be vulnerable, and still loved me with no strings attached. My mommy. This might be a little personal for a blog, but It might make a great movie one day. I was the product of a single-parent family. And to society this was "abnormal", but to me it was the most amazing gift. I was the product of a woman who loved me with every fiber in her body right to her soul. The excuse to rebel because of lack of love was never an option in my life. Don't get me wrong I was not the poster child for perfection but I tried. I learned all I could from her, than as I grew older I tried to be a teacher for her. Someone who was capable to love that much deserved 100 times the love in return. I saw the obstacles she faced and the thorns of love that tried to hurt her. But she never gave in! I never knew a weak muscle in that womans body, mind or soul. Lucky for me she was always my rock, and I think I have been hers. I just wanted to say I love you mom, and I will write a great story and dedicate to you and the woman you are and the woman you shaped me to be. Love Heather

Beauty & Brains

In society today, more than ever, the differences between men and women have become colossal. The picture of men and woman have always been painted as the men being the stonger sex and woman being meek and fragile. When it comes to the physical aspect of day-to-day things like heavy lifting and moving I would agree almost 100%. But where the battle of the fitest really matters is when we are faced with moral decisions and actions, and woman prevail phenomenally. In this area the level of strength of men and woman are completely oposite. Woman can avoid temptation and always think with their heart and not always with their hormones. I was in a prediciment earlier today that proved just that. Two men thought it would be okay to comment on my appearance (in my presence) and laugh about it. Now whether it was intended to be a compliment or a not, these men are MARRIED and that doesn't fly with me. I have respect for the women who are home after work cooking for them or waiting to see them after a long hard day. I have a beautiful boyfriend and would expect the same respect from him that when he is out in the big and bad world of temptation, to keep in mind the love I hold for him in my heart and soul. A word of advice for these men who think they can be excused for their fowl behaviour, please stop trying to impress other women start impressing the woman in your life you love and who loves you*

Two simple rules to abide by; when in LOVE

Speaking on behalf of women, being in a relationship causes us to sustain many pressures. Or so we think. We relate our real life love story with those near perfect fairy tales fed to us by media and movies. We assume men have to be willing to sweep us off our feet whenever they get the chance. Men need to hold our hand everytime we walk side by side and they need to take us out to extravagant and lavish resteraunts and dates. The truth of the matter is that men , just like women, have feelings and wants and desires to love and be loved. Because I think it's impossible to stuff everyone's love life into a generic category, I like to use my personal experinces as a precedent:


1)When your boyfriend/husband doesn't want to talk, he is not being an a** he just doesn't want to talk.


2)When he needs to be alone or  with the guys he is not being an a** he just wants to be an individual.


I figured out one of the keys to a successful relationship is the more you push the more your partner pulls, so don't push so much. Much like a teenager who is being told what to do every minute of the day, they might just turn and rebel completely against you. The objective is not to work against but with one another. And ladies don't over-analyze everything, enjoy the little moments that he does takes your breath away.*




Love,
Heather